How many times have you had a job interview recently? Are you getting fed up with all the setbacks? How are you coping with rejection? Don’t worry. It may seem like it, but you are not the only one! Rejection happens to all of us.
There are two ways of facing rejection – you either address the problem itself or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with it. Deal with rejection correctly and it will enhance your confidence. Deal with it incorrectly and it can do some serious damage to your self esteem.
Your Response to Rejection
When you are faced with any setback, your ability to deal with it can be turned around into a position of strength by abiding by these 5 tips.
1. Ask yourself some positive and empowering questions
Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a job hunting setback. There is an unwritten rule that says: Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer! So, if after a job interview setback you say to yourself, “Why does this always happen to me? I never have any luck” your mind will probably come out with: “Because I’m useless and good things do not happen to me!”
Sound familiar? Instead, if you ask yourself a positive empowering questions like: “What did I learn from this setback? What can I do next time?”. Your mind will kick into solution mode and actually help you.
2. Acknowledge that setbacks occur to everyone and you are not being singled out.
3. View rejection as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem
4. It might be the last thing you feel like doing but try to get feedback from the employer. Find out about the areas you can improve on. It’s especially useful if you end up applying for the same job some time in the future.
5. Remind yourself how great you are! Have some positive affirmations up your sleeve. Commit them to memory and recite them BEFORE you find out if you’ve been successful. See it as your antidote.
If all else fails, watch how this man deals with a rejection letter and take note!
By Mark Anderson, Career Coach at Kickstart Careers Coaching